Look! I get it!! Whilst I have this man thing down, there are other areas of my life where I can be a total mess.
Money for example – it’s so super convenient to blame the ‘financial system’. When sales aren’t coming through I can blame my audience for ‘not knowing who the fuck I am’ (without doing any work on promotion or advertising of course). Fuck, I even feel jealous of people who do better than I do, and do so because, lets face it, they actually work so much harder than I have!
I can make epic excuses about why I don’t educate myself on financial literacy such ‘it’s because I’m a creative’.
“I’m too busy” is a really good one too.
Ooooh and my absolute favourite, telling myself a story about how I’m superior to people with wealth… because they are not as “internally wealthy” as I am.
This external blame gets me off the hook and validates my current situation.
And underneath the blame is extreme disempowerment and FEAR!! A resistance and stubbornness so thick I could hold back a small army with it.
Thankfully a dear friend who really cares about me is constantly on my case about it, dragging me through my self created mud, so that I have no choice but to confront my greatness and my capability. I also have a coach who has worked with me tirelessly to own my worth and go for it.
I’ve come a reaaaaally long way and I couldn’t have, WOULDN’T HAVE done it without them. I was stuck and I needed help. I needed there intervention and commitment and I still DO!!
SO…..WHEN YOU BLAME MEN – I GET IT.
When you tell me you aren’t ready to deal with your men shit, because your “too busy working on yourself” or whatever – I GET IT.
When you tell me you “don’t have the money to invest in working on relationships right now” but then spend your money on getting your nails and hair done instead, I GET IT!
When you tell me it doesn’t matter because all your friends are single anyway or that you believe that most couples are unhappy anyway – I GET IT.
When I see the intensity of your resistance – I GET IT
But here’s the rub!
When YOU are responsible for your relationship messes, then you have the POWER to create something new. YOU have full power to CHOOSE WHAT YOU TRULY DESIRE!!
If your relationship messes are someone else’s fault then, you’re a victim and you have no insight into what part you played and hence, as far as you can tell it all comes down to luck… a completely disempowering and scary place to stand in.
If you’re complaining about the opposite sex but not willing to look at yourself and the part you play? Or unwilling to take any constructive action or do anything about it.
What’s up with that?
What’s holding you back?
Let ME be that friend to you!! That intervention!!
WHY NOT TAKE ACTION ON AN AREA OF YOUR LIFE THAT (IF YOU ARE HONEST) MATTERS SO DEEPLY TO YOU??
WHY STAY STUCK WHEN YOU CAN MOVE?
TALK TO ME!
And if you are ready to move past your resistance, come do the Awakening Men training for women.
…AND MEN!! You’re not off the hook either 😉
If you want to shift your relationship with women, get yourself into the Awakening Women training for men.
Whatcha waiting for?
*Photo of me having a little rant.